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Monday, October 18, 2004
I really am envious of the courtship that some couples share. They go on overseas trips together, they camp overnight at each other's house, old enough to enjoy the freedom that they are ENTITLED to. They share so many beautiful memories together. But for me, I can only say that it will only be in a thousand years before I can enjoy something like that, which I think is sad =( . Mind you lest your mind gets contaminated (hey there don't think dirty ok? I think the minds of some are unduly CONTAMINATED AND DIRTY!!), camping overnight and going on overseas trips does not mean that you stay in bed and do IT ok?
I think that going on overseas trips togetheris not a bad thing for it creates an opportunity for both to spend time together to relax and to expand horizons. It is a chance for both to learn about other cultures. It also gives the opportunity for both to communicate. We are so tied down with work and studies that we barely spend time together, to spend time cultivating and nurturing the relationship.As for camping overnight, it is a chance to get to know the family members better, and to know the lifestyle lead by your significant other. Is that wrong? I think in that sense, cohabitation offers the advantage of letting a couple have a taste of life after marriage. But get it straight, I am not a proponent of cohabitation here. I am not saying that it is wrong, but it is not that I do not accept it either.
People oppose to camping overnight at their GF'S place on the pretext of protecting the honor of the girl, which I think is dumb. You mean the girl is so stupid as to tarnish her own reputation INTENTIONALLY?? HA! C'mon the girl is not one with IQ 70 and you, the one with IQ 180. Duh~~ I think tarnishing the honor the girl is not as serious as not as divorcing her because you find her lifestyle unacceptable. One, she has to bear the stigma of being a divorcee. Two, if she were to get re-married, her new parents-in-law might mind. Three, it affects her chances of getting a top mgmt job, for divorcees are discriminated upon. Also, if you are really so concerned about her honor, then keep your hands off her..zzzzz...Because you would have to a certain extent, defiled her.
Camping overnight offers couples the chance to iron out the differences in lifestyle of both parties. Seriously, with the hectic lifestyle led by most couples today, they do not have a chance to communicate,and the lack of communication is the main reason why marriages break down. If differences have been ironed out prior to marriage, I would think that marriage life would be a lot easier isn't it? People get married because they feel that they know each other really well and want to spend the rest of their lives together. So is that not ironic that people actually have the intention of getting married without the intention of creating opportunities to understand each other? Marriage does not mean a thing then!
Hopefully, I would be able to have a relationship at that level by a certain time-a strong relationship. If I don't I think it will be in the interest of both to sever the relationship. What is the point of holding on to a relationship that is nothing more than an empty shell? I think I would be better off searching for a new relationship which I know I can take to a higher level, just as how it is better watering a plant which you know will flower than watering a withered plant.
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And I think a very important thing is to teach a person how to fish, and not keep feeding him with the fish. Only then can he learn to be independent. If the mother crow does not teach the baby crows how to catch worms, when the mother is old and feeble, the baby will still be unable to feed himself. In the end both shall perish.
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